Feeling Fulfilled is Not About Balance. Shift to This Instead.
For so many women, life just doesn’t seem to be working out the way they want it to. They’ve worked hard to build a career, start a family, and create a great life, but they find themselves feeling unfulfilled. What does it take to create a life that is purposeful, rewarding, and joyful? So often the topic of work/life balance is brought up, but I think way too much attention goes to the concept of balance. Feeling fulfilled comes from something else.
Most of us strive for balance in our lives, but it can be difficult to achieve. It may even be an illusion. The very concept of balance puts two things at odds, one side of a scale versus the other. But we live in a three-dimensional world, and our lives are complex. We have careers, families, relationships, and hobbies, and we all want to feel fulfilled in each of these areas. However, it’s not always possible to devote equal time and energy to all areas of our lives. Sometimes we have to choose between work and family, or between our relationships and our hobbies. And that’s okay. It’s not possible to achieve true balance, but we can create a sense of harmony and well-being.
Harmony is about more than just balance. It’s about creating a life that is in alignment with who you are and what you want. It’s about finding a way to integrate all aspects of your life so that you can feel good about yourself and your choices. When you’re in harmony with your life, you’ll find that you’re more productive, happier, and less stressed. You’ll also find that you have more energy and enthusiasm for life.
Think about a symphony orchestra. There are all these different instruments being played at the same time. The conductor doesn’t try to keep the violins, French horns, flutes and drums in balance. They’re supposed to sound different and have different contributions to the music that is being played! The goal is to keep them in harmony so that the most beautiful music is played. And so it is with feeling fulfilled.
So how do you create harmony in your life? Here are three tips:
1. Get clear on who you are and what you want.
2. Let go of what isn’t working.
3. Make time for what brings you joy.
Who Are You and What Do You Want?
The first step to creating harmony in your life and feeling fulfilled is to get clear on who you are and what you want. If you don’t know what you want, it will be very difficult to create a life that is in alignment with your true self. Take some time to reflect on who you are and what makes you happy. Once you have a clear idea of who you are and what you want, you can start making decisions that will help move you closer to feeling fulfilled.
What do you value most in life? Human beings often take their own value systems for granted. We know we have values, but we often don’t have them all consciously articulated. It is critical to identify your values. Your values are the things that are most important to you; they are the things that determine how you live your life and make choices. When your life aligns with your values, you are more likely to feel fulfilled and satisfied. The process of identifying your values is called values elicitation. It can be done through reflection, conversations with others, or taking a values survey. Once you have identified your values, you can use them as a guidepost for making choices and living a satisfying life.
Let Go of What Isn’t Working
The second step to creating harmony and feeling fulfilled in your life is letting go of what isn’t working. We all have things in our lives that aren’t serving us anymore. It could be a job, a relationship, or even a way of thinking. If something isn’t making us happy or helping us move closer to our goals, we need to let it go.
People often have a hard time letting things go because they equate letting go with loss. They don’t want to let go of something that has been a part of their life because they fear that they will no longer feel fulfilled without it. We have an innate sense of the time and energy that we’ve put into our careers, our relationships, and our goals. Letting go of them often feels like we wasted that time and energy. However, this doesn’t have to be the case. Letting go can actually be a very positive experience that can lead to feeling lighter, freer, and more at peace. It’s important to remember that holding on to something also requires energy and effort. So, even though it may be scary, sometimes letting go is the best thing we can do for ourselves.
Make Time for What Brings You Joy
The third step to creating harmony and feeling fulfilled in your life is making time for what brings you joy. Too often, we get so caught up in our daily responsibilities that we forget to make time for the things we enjoy doing . This can lead to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction. Schedule some time each week for activities that make you happy, such as reading, spending time outdoors, or connecting with someone whose relationship is important to you. When we make time for joyful activities, we bring more happiness into our lives.
It can be difficult to figure out what will really bring joy in life. Some people seem to just know what they are meant to do, while others struggle to find their purpose. There are a few things that can help point you in the right direction, however. First, pay attention to what you are naturally drawn to. If you find yourself constantly drawn to the same activity or type of work, it may be a sign that this is something you truly enjoy doing. Additionally, think about what brings you a sense of feeling fulfilled. This could be anything from making a difference in your community to simply spending time with loved ones. Lastly, don’t be afraid to experiment. Trying new things is a great way to broaden your horizons and discover new interests and passions. Ultimately, only you can decide what will bring joy into your life. But by paying attention to your heart and following your curiosity, you can get closer to finding what will make you truly happy.
Creating harmony in our lives is essential if we want to feel fulfilled and joyful. It’s not enough to just balance our work and home lives; we need to find ways to integrate all aspects of our lives so that we can feel good about ourselves and our choices. By getting clear on who we are and what we want, letting go of what isn’t working, and making time for what brings us joy, we can start moving closer towards harmonious living.
